Thursday, 9 January 2014

Things I would tell my twenty something self...



When I was younger I always wondered what the saying youth is wasted on the young meant...it just never made sense to me...but boy do I understand it now. Since turning 40 last August I have been thinking a fair bit about how different I am from the 25 year old girl who left her little South Wales village to go and live in London all those years ago. In many ways I am exactly the same person as I was 15 years ago. I am still incredibly childish, still have a potty mouth and still if I am honest feel much more at ease and confident in the company of men. However, I also realised that I am also incredibly different in many ways. I am so much more confident in my own skin and my abilities to make the right decisions, and the only opinions I care about now are from the people who care about me.

So this started me thinking about the person I was at 25, the choices I made, good and bad and more importantly thinking about what I would have done differently if back then I'd had a crystal ball, or maybe my future 40 year old self whispering into my ear and guiding me through the confusing chaos of my twenties.

Now don't get me wrong I'm pretty sure I wouldn't have listened to any of that great advice had I had it, as of course I knew much better back then, in the same way that I would never presume to tell any of my twenty something friends when I think they are making bad decisions, for surely everyone has the right to learn from their own mistakes.


But hey I thought it might be quite a fun little blog post to write, so let's see what little pearls of wisdom I come up with...I'm gonna enjoy this...

Friends....it really is quality not quantity. You only have to look at the way twenty something’s wrack up their friends on Facebook as though it's almost a competition to see who can collect the most friends. Choose your friends carefully, and try to surround yourself with positive people who bring out the best in you. 

If you have a career ambition...go for it and don’t let anyone or anything put you off. It's just so easy to potter along thinking that you have plenty of time to achieve your career goals. But once you get on the mortgage and baby treadmill it becomes a very difficult task to re-train or take a drop in salary...so just go for it.

Stop worrying about your weight...Trust me you will look back on your younger self and realise how good you actually looked and be annoyed for not realising it at the time.

Stop trying to always please everyone and stop worrying about what people think of you. Do what is right for you, not in a selfish way but because you feel it’s the right thing to do....and remember people will probably think a certain way no matter what you do.

Don't be afraid to hold out for the right man. I got to 30 and hadn't met him, and then I met a man who most definitely wasn't the right man, but I panicked and ended up marrying him!! What an idiot I was, and whilst I don't believe in regrets I wish back then I'd had the nerve and confidence to believe that the right man would come along. I was 36 when I finally met him, but boy was it worth the wait!

As an add on to the above, when you find the right man and you want children then don't hang about....I'm not necessarily saying go and be a young mum, but if you are holding out for that next promotion, bigger house, more money etc. then trust me there will never be a perfect time, so just do it. It will be the hardest but the best thing you will ever do, and if you're lucky you will have many many years to enjoy watching them grow and have children of their own.

Material things aren't important....bags, jewellery, exotic holidays are all lovely but it’s just fluff, so don't make it your priority above what really matters.

Trust your instincts...you will discover they are usually right.

This is a boring one so strap yourself in...but don't get into debt as it will take you a long time to clear it, and start your pension as soon as you can. You won't regret it when you are sat on a beach sipping on a cold beer in your sixties, as opposed to sat in your front room sipping luke warm tea and watching a repeat of Murder She Wrote!!

Don't sleep with married men. It really is a rubbish thing to do to another woman....enough said.

Don't sweat the small stuff.

And finally....just enjoy your twenties. Without depressing you twenty something's too much, your twenties will be gone in a blink of an eye and you will wake up one morning as I did and wonder what the hell happened!

Although I hear 40 is the new 30...but I'm guessing a 40 year old probably came up with that little beauty.

Thanks for reading...

Rhiannon..xx

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